A Treasure Found at Home

a number of questions about women and how we’re viewed and our place in society are coming up for me.

i was recently discussing with someone why i want certain sorts of women in my life and other sorts not so much. what is it, really, that irks me about women (and men) who do nothing but complain? i think they key is that i don’t want to be that sort of woman; i don’t want to focus so much on why my body is not right and why xyz is not right and why those things will keep me from ever finding a partner. i don’t want i set idea of what a woman is and should be and i don’t want a huge focus on how i’m falling short of the mark.

i really feel that the more i surround myself with women who see gender roles that way, the more i’m inclined to do it myself, and the more i do it and my friends do it, the more my future children will be inclined to grow up doubtful of their own selves.

this morning in squid’s blog i found she was having some similar doubts about her daughter’s friends.

then i read whinger’s blog and her entry on date rape. i think i need to take a walk around the building a few times.

all of this crap about women should be small waisted, small hipped, demure, fluffy haired, quiet, bright eyed, subserviant  angels in the house… it just leads to unhappy women and unhappy men.

so, my question to you… all of you… is who do you aspire to? who do you see as a role model? who would you love to have as a confidant and dinner companion at least once a week?