last night i went to the un-wedding of a couple friends of mine. i wasn’t sure if the whole thing was going to be way too hippie for me.
my ex came to witness the judge finalize our divorce (as the person who submitted the papers, i was required by tx to be there) and he brought friends for support. but he and the woman who was un-married last night both went to the same college in iowa. i think that’s key.
however, there were a couple of really moving moments in the ceremony. it was touching to see him get choked up at one point. at the end, they ceremonously removed their wedding rings and put them in a small, ring sized, jewelry box to be given to their daughter when she turns 18.
certainly she’ll know they loved each other when she was brought into the world.
of course the entire thing brought up thoughts of continuous change, flux, cycles of life… of everything. of habits and holding on to them. of letting go. of just acknowledging instead of fighting.
and this morning when i pulled into the parking lot i wondered if i should change my ‘usual’ parking spot due to the spiders i found hanging out (litteraly) next to my car a last week, or if it was time for a change. as i pulled around the curve i found that all the bushes which had been home to the spiders had been chopped off about half an inch from the ground. allmost all our end cap vegitation, accross the parking lot, has been scalped!
looks like the un-wedding wasn’t the only major change in living situations last night. and here’s another change; i miss the spiders.