whoah, so many people i know are having babies these days. i started to count and i got the idea that hamster_grrl and i are the only ones who don’t have have a child on the way… and she just earned a Ph.D. so, you know, that’s sort of the same thing. i just have an old, cranky cat and my grandmother’s wedding ring.
however, after experiencing first hand just a small helping of the treatment hamster_grrl was getting from the stephamsters, i have to say that the family i do have is really very nice. so, at least i have that.
or, to be more accurate, at least i have THOSE. i have two families, i’m doubly blessed. i’m sure if you’ve spent much time with me at all you know i was adopted. it’s something i’ve always known. in fact, we went to visit the adoption agency where i was picked up when i was quite young. (soon after i informed my mom that i had come down on a cloud.) when i started asking questions about why and what it meant my mother compared the situation to me and my favourite doll.
“what if,” she said to me, “for some reason, you could not take care of her anymore. wouldn’t you want to give her to another little girl who would be able to take care of her?”
i nodded. yes, i would want someone to take care of her if i couldn’t.
“well, that’s the same as your biological mother with you. we don’t know why, but for SOME reason, she couldn’t take care of you so she gave you to us because we could. but she loved you very much.”
always, always, i knew that was true. fast forward many years, i finally do meet my biological mother. we all go back to our hometown and my family came over to meet my other family. when my biological mom came to the door, she and my adoptive mom both grabbed each other and ran off into a corner and huged and cried and thanked each other.
let me say that again.
they huged and cried and thanked each other.
every day there are unexpected pregnancies. many of those babies are concieved by women who are, for whatever reason, unable to take care of those children. children whom they love very much, more even than i loved my doll. they love those as yet unborn babies as much as my biological mother loves me.
and with all the friends of mine who are having babies, i know couples who are not. melissa and eric are two who are not having a baby, though they would very much like to have children. i’m hoping some of you few who still read this blog (of the few who ever read it to begin with) will post their website on your own blog or tweetfeed or whatever, too. with your own story if you have one, or with mine if you wish. i know, i my heart of hearts they will make good parents and melissa will feel toward her child’s birth mother the same way my adoptive mother feels toward my biological mother.
let’s give this world more oportunities for us to hug and cry with happiness and thank each other, shall we?